Look More Confident — Tony Robbins’ Tips
A lot of people struggle with confidence in public settings. In this video, I’ll give you 5 tips to help you look and feel more confident.
I don’t know how confident of a person you are, but the tips I’m going to give you today will help anyone from the beginner who really struggles with self-confidence and will be a good review for people who feel they’ve got it figured out. These tips come from Tony Robbins’ article called “How to Look Confident: 5 Ways to Appear Self-Assured at All Times and I’ve put a link to the full article in the description below if you want to read more.
The really interesting thing to me about confidence is that science suggests that it consists of 3 parts and the most important part are non-verbal cues. These make up 55% of someone’s interpretation of your confidence! The other two parts are vocal inflection, which makes up 38% and what we actually say is about 7%, so we speak more with our actions than our words!
The 5 tips that I’m about to tell you are all things that you can easily start practicing in your life right away and I encourage you to try them out!
1) Tip number 1 is to ALIGN YOUR SHOULDERS. Standing up straight and keeping your shoulders back opens up your entire body rather than being slouched or hunched over. If someone is speaking to you, keep your shoulders and body square to them, don’t keep your body facing away from them. Doing this will tell the person you are talking to that you are interested in what they have to say and confident that you can handle yourself in the conversation.
2) Tip number 2 is to STOP FIDGETING. When you feel uncomfortable, stressed, or nervous it can be very common that you fidget as a way for your body to release the built-up energy it has inside whether you recognize it or not. Be aware of your actions and try not to touch your face, straighten your clothes, or bounce your legs. If you recognize that you start fidgeting, I recommend trying to focus on your breathing, which usually allows me to settle down and become more relaxed.
3) Tip number 3 is to STEEPLE YOUR HANDS WHEN STANDING. Hand gestures, yes hand gestures can tell someone how confident you are and it happens when you steeple your hands by connecting at all your fingers together in a point. When you are speaking, raise your hands to your chest area and when you are listening, keep the steeple, but lower your hands into your lap. When using the steeple, make sure to keep it relaxed and natural — your hands shouldn’t seem like they are glued together and you can open your hands to emphasize key points when you are speaking before returning back to the steeple.
4) Tip number 4 is to MAINTAIN GOOD EYE CONTACT and I say “good eye contact” because eye contact isn’t always good. People can be focused on maintaining good eye contact that sometimes they end up staring at the person they are talking to because they don’t want to take their eyes off of them, but that can get weird and make the other person uncomfortable. Tony Robbins recommends using the 80/20 rule, where you are looking normally into the eyes of your partner 80% of the time and looking around the room or away from your partner 20% of the time. Repeated long glances down will tell someone that you aren’t confident, so try to minimize that. Eye contact is something that I’ve been experimenting with a lot lately and I’ve had a few exchanges in the past few weeks that have really reinforced these tips for me.
5) Tip number 5 is to DEVELOP A FIRM HANDSHAKE. One of the first things you do when you meet someone new in many cultures is shake their hand, so it makes sense that this is a big factor into someone believing that you are confident. Be firm, keep your fingers together and your thumb upright and lock hands with the other person. You can take it a little further by keeping your palm facing down as you reach your hand out to meet the other person’s, or by using a technique called “anchoring” during the handshake. This is where you use your other hand to touch the person’s arm between the wrist and elbow as you shake their hand. Done appropriately and properly, these are two additional ways to create confidence and interest in meeting someone new.
These are 5 tips from Tony Robbins on how to look more confident. Be sure to try them out and let me know in the comments below if you recognize any changes in your confidence levels, or how others perceive you!
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